I wouldn’t say I’m completely mature or grown as a person. I’m like a “baby” grown up. I’m right in the middle of growing up while taking on a bunch of new responsibilities (ahem, rent, bills, and taxes, I’m talking about you) and hitting my early onset mid-life crisis. I’m not a full-blown mature grown up yet, but I’ve definitely had my fair share of lessons to pass on.
- Never pass the opportunity to do something or try something new—especially if you want to do it. You’ll regret it if you don’t take the chance.
- Don’t dwell on the past; it’s history. Either own it or move on.
- Stop worrying about that big zit on your face, the uneven tones on your cheek, or the sparseness/fullness of your brows. No one cares more about it than you and only you.
- Keep an open mind with your actions and decisions; it’ll open a lot of doors for you. As mentioned in the dozens of FNL episodes I binge watched, “Clear eyes, full hearts”.
- You won’t always get what you want, so work with what you got and make the most of it. A little improvisation and adaptability never hurts.
- Invest in gel insoles for those heels, and well, any shoes you own. You’ll thank me later.
- Tell your parents you love and appreciate them and all that they do every once in a while.
- Work your ass off. I’m not saying you’ll get exactly where you want to be, but it does pay off somehow some way.
- But don’t forget to have fun! Go out with your friends, create some fun adventures, and have a few “night of your life” moments.
- Save $50 from each paycheck you get. It all adds up in the end. (If you’re too attached to the money you make, try taking out $10 or $20 at first and progressively take more out).
- You make mistakes and learn from them. Make sure you actually learn from them. Don’t be the person to make the same mistakes millions of times. That would suck.
- Stop worrying about what other people think of you; the only opinion that really matters is yours.
- Do not—and I mean DO NOT—set yourself to everyone else’s standards. Remember that you are your own person. Love yourself!
- Don’t depend on others for your happiness. People will let you down; what will you do then?
- Be confident. Believe in yourself. It’s attractive.
- Take a million photos when you’re traveling. Be that annoying tourist who takes pictures of their family and friends every 5 steps you guys take. You’re making memories here.
- Don’t be afraid to approach anyone: the person reading on the subway, the dog walker taming 10 dogs at once on the sidewalk, the barista at a small town coffee shop. You never know what they’re like until you talk to them; I guarantee you, you’ll be amazed with more than half of their stories.
- Ask someone about what they love; their hearts will be full, their eyes will light up, and they will go on and on about their passion for something. I swear you’ll fall in love with the zealousness that radiates around them.
- Learn time management. It’s hard to accomplish everything you want to without it.
- People change and grow apart. Don’t let the thought of them gone linger in your mind too long. Be happy they were in it once and accept that they’re different now. Chances are, you’re different too.
I know I haven’t learned all there is to life and everything else yet; I know I have a long way to go. I’m proud of all that I’ve learned and achieved the past 20 years, but I still have so much to do and discover and honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever been more excited to grow up. Growing up and transitioning to the adult life is full of surprises and challenges, but I know and believe that I can get through this whole process; you should, too.